What is self-confidence? It’s the ability and belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, no matter the difficulty and no matter the adversity. Self-confidence is a skill and without perfecting it we are useless.
The easiest way to build self-confidence is by repetition. That’s it!
Basketball star Stephen Curry practices 100 shots from the half-court line every day and before games to perfect his 3 point shot. Repetition is why he makes most of those shots. Golf pro, Tiger Woods made golf fun to watch again because of all the amazing shots and long putts Tiger made. It’s because of daily practice is why he is so good. From famous athletes to industry leaders what separates them from the pack is their dedication to practice each and every day.
We expect to be self-confident, but we can’t unless the task we are doing is not new to us. Pressure builds diamonds! We want to be in situations where we feel like we have done this 1000 times before. The problem with repetition is too many people bails after the first bit of failure or after the first bit of adversity.
There would not have been a Harry Potter series if JK Rawlings had quit after being turned down by several publishers. I believe it was the 13th publisher who finally said YES and the rest is history.
Do not accept failure. Be persistent because we all repeat something, but a few persist. We all have a negative self-talk track playing in our head. There are enough people telling us we can’t do it or we’re not good enough. Why do we want to tell ourselves that?
It’s a well-researched fact that thoughts influence our actions. Then why do we want to say that negative self-talk to ourselves? We need to create our own affirmations and incantations. Use the quiet moments when you’re by yourself to reaffirm “I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate”
Get away from the people who will tear you down. There is enough of that. Mohammad Ali was one of the greatest boxers of all time. He was known for saying “I am the greatest, no one is better than me”. Although he was humorous fun kind of guy, he was not saying this to brag, or boost his ego or some sense of false pride, it was a reminder to himself.
Write a list about all the things that make you who you are. Keep this handy because you will make mistakes and people will be there to tear you down. Your list will help you remember who you are.
Write yourself a brag letter congratulating yourself for the things you have accomplished and are proud of. Stop the negative self-talk. Find an anchor to remind you to think of all you have accomplished and what you are striving for. Lance Armstrong wore bands saying Livestrong on them (before the company was launched). He would move them from one wrist to the other when dealing with his self-confidence. Find what works for you.
The two ways to build self-confidence in others are to ignore what is going wrong and find something to praise them for. Keep praising them for doing the things you want them to repeat.
Self-confident people will interpret feedback the way they choose. Being told no may mean to them, not now, but not never. No one will believe in you unless you do. Look at all the people who seem to “not fit in”. We’re supposed to be different so when people look at you believe in yourself.
Nearly every person we encounter is a networking opportunity! You never know who is in their sphere of influence that you may know or know you. The following are questions that are those used by the networking expert, Bob Burg. They are designed to not only help build rapport with your networking prospect but also make them feel good and they will enjoy answering.
“All things being equal, people will do business with, and refer business to
those people they know, like and trust.” ~ Bob Burg ~
Remember these questions are designed to build rapport. You won’t have time to ask more than 2-3 of them in any one conversation. Asking more than that will seem like an interrogation.
How can I know if someone I’m speaking to is a good prospect for you?
This question is key in the process of getting this person to feel they know you, likes you and trusts you. It must be asked with sincerity and only after some rapport has been made. You are probably the only person they have met who has asked this question and probably the only one who has asked it during a first conversation together.
Relationships are an essential part of sales. Using these questions will start the process of making long lasting friendships that will dramatically affect your bottom line as well as theirs.
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It’s usually the small, simple steps in life that yield the best results. In this video, I share a concept, an exercise, that when practiced on a regular basis will create change in you that will add to your wealth. This exercise has many benefits and serves people in ways beyond our imagination. It has endless possibilities…and it will make you feel good!
Think of weight training. When you exercise a muscle on a regular basis, the muscle grows, it gets stronger and the exercise becomes easier to do. The same applies to build a wealth muscle. It’s get’s bigger, it gets stronger and easier to do over time. It’s a simple concept, right? But, if you have not exercised for a while, it is no longer a habit. And to start a habit or regain one we may need a reminder to exercise. It may be a “post-it” on the bathroom mirror, a note by the coffee pot or a scheduled appointment. The same applies when exercising this particular wealth muscle.
What is Wealth Wednesday? Think of it as an anchor. The definition of an anchor is a person or thing that can be relied on for support, stability or security. In this case, we rely on Wealth Wednesday as our anchor or reminder for flexing our wealth muscle.
Wealth Wednesday is also a movement. It was started by, Top Performance Coach, Ray Higdon. He founded a paid membership group Rank Makers where he provides valuable business and personal development coaching each day. Knowing how valuable philanthropy is for personal development and growing wealth he created the anchor, Wealth Wednesday to remind members to do something charitable at least one time a week.
The exercise is to do something charitable for a stranger, with that has a financial cost, without expectation of receiving anything in return. One of the ways I practice this is by paying for the car behind me when crossing the bridge or paying the tab for the person behind me in my favorite coffee shop.
Flexing your wealth muscle can be done any day, any time and any place. Use your imagination. Think of your local fire station or the person sitting alone at a restaurant. You can pay someone’s toll. The possibilities are endless.
People who have difficulty making and or keeping money generally have a poor mindset towards it. A poor money mindset can repel money from coming to you. Money is energy. It needs to move and circulate through society. When we are afraid to spend money because of a tight budget we tend to always have a tight budget. However, when you can find an extra dollar to give towards a good cause a few things happen.
Have an impact on society and start flexing your wealth muscle by committing to a Wealth Wednesday practice regardless of what day of the week it is. You will be glad you did.
With busy lives, hectic schedules and long to-do lists it’s easy to be a bit hard on ourselves. I admit I’m my harshest critic and at times need to be reminded to not be so hard on myself. So this reminder is a little self-serving as I need to remember to practice these two powerful behaviors.
It’s a fact that maintaining a healthy diet will keep us rather healthy. The expression “an apple a day keeps the doctor away” is a reminder to eat healthily. Practicing self-praise and gratitude twice a day is like keeping the doctor away.
It’s so easy to practice them, but we rarely do. Maybe that’s why because they’re easy, so we don’t put attach much value to them. But, research has proven that practicing self-praise and gratitude has healing powers and creates new neural pathways in the brain. It’s magical! The best part is the practice does not cost any money and does not need to be scheduled in. It can be done anytime and anywhere. Do it twice a day as a minimum. More is better.
The most important thing to make familiar is praising yourself. If you could just do that, that in itself would change your entire life. There is actually nothing on the planet that will raise your self-esteem like praise, but self-praise is better.
The mind likes repetition and when you praise yourself every day, your mind kind of goes, “Oh, yeah, here you go again with that praise. You say it every day, it must be true.” And now it sinks in. The problem is if you criticize yourself every day it says the same thing. So choose self-praise over criticism.
How do you praise yourself? You get up in the morning and go, “I’m a good person. I have a skill, I have a talent, I have something to offer the world. I’m here for a reason.” Look in the mirror and go, “Oh, there you are! You’re a good person, you’ve got a good heart.”
The most important thing is that you like you. So, whatever you want to hear, say it to yourself, because your mind doesn’t even know that it’s coming… And, also, it doesn’t care. Your mind doesn’t care if what you’re telling it is right or wrong, or true or false, or even if it’s good or bad. It lets it in.
Having regular brief reflections on moments for which we’re thankful can significantly increase well-being and life satisfaction. Gratitude works because it slowly changes the way we perceive situations by adjusting what we focus on.
Scientists studying positive psychology found that a one-time act of thoughtful gratitude produced an immediate 10% increase in happiness and a 35% reduction in depressive symptoms. The happy effects disappeared within three to six months which shows that gratitude is an act to be repeated again and again.
We need to be our own cheerleader, our own pep squad, especially if you are your own boss. No one really knows all that you are challenged within your mind. Paying the bills, getting a new customer, resolving a problem for a client, taking mom to the hospital the list goes on and on. We can get wrapped up into some negative thinking with almost anything we encounter from day to day. So find those nuggets within challenges you face to give gratitude and self-praise.
And if you are a boss your team will be much happier and be better producers if they feel appreciated and receive praise for their work. Say and show gratitude. Say how much you appreciate them being on the team and how valuable they are to the overall mission. Show acts of gratitude by rewarding them with praise and random tokens of appreciation. Get creative and have fun with it.